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  • chibialfa 9:37 pm on February 19, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: angry, annoyed, bar, humiliation, , kemang, night life, sad, security, story, tabac, toilet   

    I peed at Tabac, and I didn’t buy anything. 

    I used to love Tabac Kemang. Until tonight

    Sure, some friends like to say “what’s so great about that place? It’s bloody expensive, pretentious, and the crowd is not even that flattering”

    Well, I felt differently. I went there occasionally. As a meeting point to meet friends, or as the final destination after a fun night of club hopping 

    I had fun memories there. From doing a split just to amuse my friends after a few glass of beers (see pic below), or simply having a fun night out for winding myself down after a stressful day at work.

    “Let’s meet at Tabac”is something that my friends heard quite often from me.

    Until tonight.

    It was after a pre production meeting outside the office and I was in the mood for a pleasant night out after some very hard week

    A friend that I was planning to meet was still caught up in a meeting so I decided to stop by at Tabac and told him to join me there after he’s finished.

    After all, I loved the place, I figured a beer or two would make it even better.

    My producer kindly dropped me there, and I went inside, straight to the toilet to answer nature’s call. After doing my business, the friend I was planning to meet sent me a text message, telling me that his meeting is going to be longer than expected, at which point I decided to cancel my plan and go home.

    When I was walking out of the door, one of the tabac’s security suddenly stopped me in a totally disrespectful manner. 

    I will write his words in bahasa Indonesia and translate later;

    “Mbak, saya perhatikan tadi mbak masuk ke dalam. Saya buntuti dan Mbak langsung masuk ke toilet, lalu langsung keluar lagi. Saya perhatikan juga, Mbak ini sudah sering ya melakukan hal kaya gini. Tolong nggak usah diulang lagi, Mbak, tempat ini bukan toilet umum”

    (Ma’am, I noticed when you went inside and I followed you. You only used the toilet and then you went out again. I seem to remember that you’ve done this several times before. Don’t do this again, as this place is not a public toilet)

    I was speechless.

    What would you do if you were in my shoes? Never in my wildest dream have I ever imagined getting such treatment from a person representing a place where I count myself as a loyal costumer!

    I was too angry to mention these things which I believe make sense.

    1. Why would he followed me to the toilet? Does he do that to everybody or just me? If it’s just me, what is it about me that he think is wrong? Was it because of my daily office clothes (namely; a tee, jeans, and adidas sneakers)?. It’s hilarious. Tabac is full of advertising agency and production house people. Their staff should have know better than to judge people from their casual wardrobes.

    2. Putting my (hurt-hurt-hurt) feeling aside, he might only be doing his job (namely; throwing away people who come there only to use the toilet).
    But note what he was saying ” ….I seem to remember that you’ve done this several times before….”

    Oh my God. It was a very cruel,humiliating and WRONG thing to say. 

    He didn’t see me as graduate from one of the toughest university in this country
    He didn’t see me as a fun loving ,hard working professional that I am.
    He didn’t see me as a creative group head of a multi national ad agency. 

    He didn’t see me as being a loyal customer who had spent MILLIONS, and bringing her crowd there for a fun night out.
    He simply saw me as the girl who peed without buying.

    And how did it make me feel?
    I could hardly breathe. 
    I guess the thing with public humiliation like this, it made me feel dirty, and unworthy. It was like this person just take my self worth and trash it. 
    It somehow feels like a dignity rape.

    Let’s learn something from this experience, shall we?

    In a second I finally understood why Public Relation is considered to be one of the most important element in a venue. Sorry to say, Tabac’s PR department has a lot of learning to do.

    Even now I am trying to put this as a misunderstanding. I honestly think no business would ever KNOWINGLY do this kind of thing to their customer. Neither can i blame Mr Damar (the security guy), he probably is only doing what his bosses is telling him to do (and not even paid all that much to do it ,I’m sure…)

    All the same, I can’t help the fact that from this moment on whenever I think of Tabac Kemang, in my head all I can hear is “…INI BUKAN TOILET UMUM MBAK!!” (THIS IS NOT PUBLIC TOILET, MA’AM)

    To reward Mr. Damar (the security guy) for catching a non costumer who treated Tabac’s toilet as public toilet, I gave him Rp. 100.000,- He can consider that as a public toilet fee. 

    Buy something nice with it, Mr. Damar.

    • Obi-Wan 10:20 pm on February 19, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      That’s the thing about most hangout places in Jakarta, unless you’re really famous, or bule, there’s no way the staff are gonna notice you — no matter how many times you went there.

    • Dana 11:14 pm on February 19, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Buset deh, pasti elo disangka ayam deh fa, tahu sendiri kan tempat2 kayak gitu, kayaknya kalo menurut mereka cewek Indonesia (apalagi yang ‘ehem’ berwajah eksotik) baru boleh masuk kalo dibawa bule…
      Huh, tarohan yang punyanya bule yang kawin ama cewek lokal supaya bisa beli properti dan bikin SIUP….

    • nova sargito 11:19 pm on February 19, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Haha, pipis aja 100rb!!! Mahal bener bok, emangnya di New York kali ya?

      (eh, kalo 10$ sekali pipis sih bangkrut juga deh biar bule new york sekalipun…)

      Peace yo!

    • kiki 11:27 pm on February 19, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      alfa!! so sorry to hear such an awful thing happen to you, say! *hugs* biarin gue sebarin kesemua anak TB kita boykot aja tuh tempat, kayak dia doang club di jakarta!!! btw minggu depan kita jadi kan?

    • chibialfa 5:06 am on February 20, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      @Obi. Kalo cuman gak dinotice sih gak papa. Tapi kalo udah diperkosa dignity-nya… nah itu baru.. 🙂

    • chibialfa 5:27 am on February 20, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      @Dana eh siaul… maksud lo gue kaya ayam? Ayam KFC sih iya… yang original yah, bukan crispy.

    • chibialfa 5:28 am on February 20, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      @Nova… yeah, 1st time in my life I paid such amount for pipis *keluh* ah, but it was ‘worth it’ 😀

    • chibialfa 5:29 am on February 20, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      @Kiki jadi dong say, tapi gak ke you-know-what-starting-with-T dong ya 😉 *masih trauma*

    • Wilhelmina LeBeau 7:28 am on February 20, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Gilaaa…itu bener2 GILA!

      Gw ga tau harus respon apa ttg postingan ini…wow…mungkin kalo gw ada di posisi kau, wow, gw ga tau udah ngamuk kyk gimana.

      ~JeNN (pyrobaby666)

    • pandi merdeka 9:08 am on February 20, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      wew kk wew …. emang toilet situ dah manggil sedot wc ya tiap hari… pelanggan ampe digituin .. parah. sabar ya Ma’am

    • ndin 1:39 pm on February 20, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      ga lgs manggil manajernya?

    • Devi Girsang 11:28 pm on February 22, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Awww that was awful. I’ve never been there but I can assure you I won’t go there near future after I read what happened to you.

    • Damar Suritno 7:20 am on February 23, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Mbak, saya perhatikan mbak nulis yang jelek – jelek tentang Tabac ya. Saya googling blog Mbak. Saya perhatikan juga, Mbak ini sudah sering ya melakukan hal kaya gini. Tolong nggak usah diulang lagi.o ya, Ini rekening BCA saya . Damar Suritno BCA Menara Mulia no.rek 2781 0001 441562

    • behindthestory 10:43 am on February 23, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Hey Tabac PR/Mr Damar/whoever left a comment to threat the girl who peed,

      That’s what you get for humiliating your loyal customer (and my Twitter hero). DEAL WITH IT!

    • sunardi 11:42 am on February 23, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      If I were you, I would call the manager.
      Who paint that bar red, anyway?

    • laksmi 3:02 am on February 25, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      bole comment ya …;)
      menurutku salah 2-2 nya sih…
      dia harusnya nanya sopan2 aja dan ga pake nuduh macem2.
      mbak jg ngapain bayar satpam ? enak bener…. marah2in orang dapet duit…
      lagian emang dia ngeh maksudnya ?
      mending ngomong sama managernya kali yah.

      soal ayam … gak usah tampilan ‘ayam’ jg kalo orang asia jalan ama temen bule mau di di indo mau di luar negeri, tetep sering kena prasangka … walaupun sebenernya bule2 itu lebih kere …

      cheers ^_^

    • infopemula 4:00 am on February 26, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      ck..ck..ck..ck no comment ^^

      Nice Share Thanks

    • free business advertising 10:58 am on February 28, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      maklum aja deh mbak, mungkin dia juga cuman disuruh atasanya, btw diterima jugak tuh 100.000nya 😛 malu dia

    • Mike 2:57 pm on March 1, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Just passing by.Btw, your website have great content!

      Making Money $150 An Hour

    • Pangeran Siahaan 10:00 am on March 10, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      this is not the 1st time i heard something bad about tabac…

      im really curious, what kinda place is that?
      everybody said it’s over-rated!


    • dodol duren 11:27 am on March 17, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      hehehe Kemang emang pegawai-pegawai cafe/resto/toko dll disana mental budak semua … kalo bule masuk langsung deh senyum ramah nyapa siap nolong … itu juga belum tentu bulenya belanja, kalo orang lokal masuk kalo ngga pake jas/pakaian rapi, ngga bawa mobil mahal siap-siap aja dianggap kambing ….. huh makanya gw benci daerah kemang

    • indocontest 11:41 am on April 2, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Wah…. Cari tempat laen aja Mbak….
      Kaya dia aja Club di Jakarta.
      Jadi Ikutan kesal….

    • annabel 11:49 am on July 28, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      huh..jd ikt kesel.. mba.. TABAC th emang ancur bgt.staff nya mantan pReman smua. aku py temen yg rumahtggnya d ganggu ama salah1 staff Tabac. temenku ampe dteror2 ama th cew.. temenku aja tlalu sabar padahal g udah ngajakn dia u ngelabrak th cew-her name meliana- di Tabac lgSG ..tp tmnku gak mau. emang staff TABAC gakpd py manner yaa.. ownernya so stupid gakbs ngedidik staff or they dont know -dont wanna know. udah demo aja th tempat. bakar aja kalo perlu biar staff2nya jd pd jobless !

    • Anita 8:09 am on February 15, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      Typical establishments in Jakarta and in Bali. They may be ran well by qualified top-level managers unfortunately this is not always the case with the staff. They are snobbish, treat customers based on their own untasteful judgement and “kampung” manners.

      Hotel Mulia Senayan staff for example, treats Melayu guests appalingly differently than to the westerners&chinese. It never really gets to my head how this hotel (and similar establishments) get high rating on travel websites like TripAdvisor. Those customer reviews must have been written by westerners.

      As for myself.. I’d rather splurge on travelling&leisuring abroad.

      Mending bikin orang bule (yang bisa menghargai saya sebagai customer) kaya daripada bikin orang lokal (yang tidak bisa menghargai sesama bangsanya!) kaya!

    • chika djati 5:43 pm on March 16, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      Wew..it must be a terrible experience for you..
      But,this information could be useful not only for the customer or future customer..
      But also for the Tabac.have u ever plan to send a mail to them?

  • chibialfa 12:45 pm on February 4, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , condolences, death, family, grief, memoar, memory   

    Good bye, Dad 

    In grief, I find writing helps.

    I open this blog as a place to put every memory on Dad,

    Ayah, kami, dan aku

    • dianosaurus 4:08 pm on February 4, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      fa, I’m so sorry to hear that. my deepest condolences to your family. be strong yah, i believe he had lived a good life and you’ve made him a happy dad.

    • Ade 5:08 pm on February 5, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Ikut berduka cita ya Fa..

    • poetra 5:58 pm on February 5, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Turut berduka cita sedalam-dalamnya ya, fa..
      Semoga diberi kekuatan dan ketabahan, dan semoga arwah beliau diterima di tempat terbaik di sisiNya..

    • Daus 10:08 am on February 16, 2009 Permalink | Reply

      Saya ikut berempati Alfa. Semoga beliau mendapat tempat terindah di sisi-Nya.

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